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Thinking About Divorce A Review Of How To Decide If You Should Divorce

Making the decision to separate or divorce is one of the most critical decisions that you will ever make. That decision is compounded when there are children involved.

When we fall in love, walk down the isle and say "I Do", we really believe that we have found our "Happy Ending". I don't know about you, but I had always envisioned a happy life complete with my prince charming. Perhaps one of the most eye opening days of my life was the day that I really realized that I was not living that "Happily Ever After" that I had planned, and it certainly was not with my "Prince Charming".

I struggled for years trying to make a decision of whether to stay or go. Will it get better..or worse? I agonized over the decision and could not seem to get any peace over what I should do. Some of my closest friends would advise me to leave while others would remind me of what I would be giving up should I go. I was in a constant state of indecision.

Looking at my situation, I was further confused when I tried to figure out what was best for my two children...what our families would say.what friends would would I be able to make it alone.and the list went on. It seemed like there were so many little voices in my head, half telling me I should leave and the other half telling me I should stay.

Lucky for me, I found real help in a resource called "How To Decide If You Should Divorce" by Lisa Christopher. Because Lisa has been right where you are, she provides a step-by-step formula to reach a well thought out, careful decision. One that's right for you! It's different than anything else I have seen on divorce.

Lisa helps you avoid the mistakes that she made. She says that there are 3 myths to divorce that we as women tend to believe. The first one is that marriage, even an unhappy one, is better than any divorce. The second myth is that divorce is always bad for the children. The third one is that marriage equals success and divorce means failure. Do any of those sound familiar to you? They sure did to me! Lisa helps you see each of these myths as they really are and she helps you uncover your true feelings about each one as well as other things that might be keeping you confused about what you should do.

What I like best about "How To Decide If You Should Divorce" is that Lisa helps you see your whole situation in a light where you can be certain of your decision, without trying to persuade you in one direction or the other. It's a great feeling to know someone really understands!

There are women who have considered divorce for years and cannot make up their minds. Their unhappiness continues, their marriages are getting worse, and they keep going round and round inside their heads about whether or not they should divorce, with no end in sight. That was me. Is that you too?

I highly recommend Lisa Christopher's resource, "How To Decide If You Should Divorce" for anyone who is earnestly seeking direction in whether to stay or leave their marriage.

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Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer A Practical Tip To Speed Up Your Divorce

You can help your Rhode Island Divorce Attorney immensely by providing information at the very beginning of your representation. The information your attorney will find most valuable is generally the following:

Name and Description of Each Asset?Current Value of Each Asset?Who Purchased the Asset?Whose Name is the Asset Held In?Where is the Asset Located?Was this asset given to you or your spouse as a gift or inheritance?If so, who as the asset given to when and why?Name of Each debt?Person or Company to Whom the debt is Owed?The Account Number for the debt?The existing balance of the debtWho created the debt?When was the debt first created?What were the monies used for?Who used what monies that make up the debt?Do you have children?How many children do you have with your current spouse?Do you have any adopted children?What are the children's names and dates of birth?Where do the children live?Who is the primary physical caretaker of the children?When were you married?Where were you married?Are you still living in the same household?If not, when did you separate and why?Do you have evidence of infidelity of your spouse?Identify your employer's name and address?What is your job, and what are your job duties?How long have you worked with this employer?How much do you make per week?Do you receive any overtime?If you receive overtime, how much do you receive?Is your overtime regular? Identify your spouse's employer's name and address?What is your spouse' job, and what are your spouse's job duties?How long has your spouse worked with this employer?How much does your spouse make per week?Does your spouse receive any overtime?If your spouse receives overtime, how much does your spouse receive?Is your spouse's overtime regular?

Give a thumbnail sketch of your educational background and the educational background of your spouse.

This information will be invaluable to your Rhode Island Divorce attorney as long as you really take time to brainstorm. Remember that automobiles are assets but any financing for them is a debt. Also, pensions, 401ks, investments, CD's, bank accounts are assets but loans against those retirement vehicles are debts. A house is an asset but mortgages and equity loans against those items are debts. This is not meant in the least to indicate that as the reader you can't figure this out. Yet there are some clients I've had over the years who have experienced frustration because they truly do not understand the nature of each question. As an example, most clients will not put down their new television and surround sound system or their new dining room set as an asset because they just see it as furniture. It's understandable and yet knowing these things is helpful to your attorney and to the court because they are things that may have to be divided between the spouses.

If you want to get a jump on things and help an attorney evaluate your case, then complete this list thoroughly and take your time. You'll find it's well worth it and it should save you money on attorney's fees in the long run.

Learn more about Attorney Christopher Pearsall's Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Practice.

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Contact Attorney Christopher Pearsall at 354-2369 now for your low-cost consultation from Rhode Island's Most Affordable Family Law Attorney.

This article is for informational purposes only and is not legal advice. You should not take legal action without legal advice from a licensed practitioner who has been fully informed about your specific circumstances. The Rhode Island Supreme Court licenses all attorneys in the general practice of law and has no procedure for recognition of specialties.

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