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Child Custody Alienation In Custody Battles

The absolute best way to prevail in a custody dispute, especially if the dispute moves toward an evaluation, is to emphasize all of your good traits as a parent, even if still in the courtroom. At the same time, it is equally important to down-play any attempt to make the other parent look unfit. This is not to say that one should not point out the faults of the other person but this should not become the focal point of your argument. As said before, the pendulum has swung so far in this area that if one is seen as an alienator or as attempting to cast the other parent as Hitler or Caligula, it is almost assumed that the person painting this awful picture, whether deserved or not, is the less adequate parent.

But here we have the horns of a dilemma, because it is the legal system itself that encourages a parent to take this very position. In many ways, the legal system speaks out of both sides of its mouth concerning child custody. While being very sensitive to uses of alienation strategies, the reasoning behind determining the better parent or the parent who can more frequently act in the child's best interest still rests on a fault model.

While many states have moved toward a no-fault version of divorce, "fault" reasoning still permeates custody determinations. The old fault model in marriage involved awarding custody to the parent who had been most "faultless" within the marriage and within the divorce action. Fault was typically defined in terms of the parent who either committed adultery, was a drug or alcohol abuser, was a physical abuser, or guilty of neglect or abandonment, any kind of criminal activity or even some kind of mental illness. Most judges will certainly consider that which they think they are quite expert on judging, that is, the moral character of a parent. And this can lead to a consideration of a lot of life style issues .

So the dilemma is this: while almost all evaluators and certainly many, many judges now almost have a negative knee-jerk reaction when they see alienating strategies on the part of a parent, and are almost always inclined to act in a negative way toward such a manifestation the law itself actually encourages parents to engage in alienating strategies. As long as a prevailing thrust of the legal process is going to be based on a fault model, the legal system itself is encouraging parents to do the very thing it will punish them for if they find them doing it.

Dave Huffman is a single father who won custody of his children. He has a blog at

Child Custody Child Custody Plans

There are more than ten million of children worldwide who have lost their parents due to AIDS and about 125,000 children have become orphaned in America. In relation to this, attention is being given and directed to parents having HIV or AIDS concerning the welfare of their children. This is where the Child Custody Plan comes in. The Child Custody Plan covers the long term welfare of the children whose parents are HIV positive or with AIDS disease as well as other terminal cases of heath diseases.

Custody planning is a process of making decisions on who will take care of a child or children in any event that their parents dies. The process requires sufficient and thorough investigation when it comes to custody planning behavior. Aside from the investigation, the process of Child Custody Plan may require some factors that can help predict the steps in parental custody planning.

There are some systems of caring that can help any parents having complex issues that involves custody planning. It had been estimated that there had been millions of parents with chronic diseases dying without any formal plans on the long-term welfare of their children. One reason for this is that parents are afraid on any realistic fears of discrimination and prejudice. Another reason is the prolong denials of diseased parents on the facts of their illnesses. Because of these reasons, failure is at stake.

The failure on Custody Plans may often result on the higher risk of the children when it comes to their status, character and attitude build-up. This failure may often result to negative outcomes on the children. Without any formal plan in place, the state or country where the child lives has the authority on placing them anywhere such as on social institutions or orphanages. However, this authority is still subject on the wishes of the parents while they were still alive or the decisions of the designated guardians of the child. Furthermore, in cases like these, the legalities of the laws on child custody are even complicated and greater.

There also factors that are predicted to influence the preparation of Child Custody Plan. Among these factors include the social supports, coping mechanisms, lifestyle and physical and mental health. However, these factors are only evaluated as predictors on Child Custody Planning. There are also rules that are bent when it comes to reviewing the plan.

Dave Huffman has custody of his 3 children. He has a child custody information blog at

Child Custody Child Custody Evaluations

When there is a child involved in any divorce case, then a child custody ruling will have to be made. The child custody case is always separate from the divorce case or the child support issue. A child custody evaluation is usually the best possible way to determine what will be best for the child. The courts rely on the evaluation so much, that around 90% of the decision is based on the evaluation.

A psychologist is used to conduct the evaluation and often the process is very stressful. Even though it is for the benefit of the child, both parents feel that they are in a competition. Due to this, they can get very distraught and frustrated with the process if the psychologist implies anything out of the ordinary. The behind-the-scenes truth is not always present during a court hearing. Many times, both parents are putting on a false appearance and the evaluation is a way to hear the child's side of the story.

The psychologist spends time with the child and the parents at different intervals. The psychologist must determine the parenting skills of both parent. How comfortable the parent feels in the presence of the child is also a very big detail. The needs of the child are also accessed and how quick the parent is to respond to the needs. Each parent's home is evaluated during the process to make sure that it is a loving and secure environment for the child.

If the issue of child neglect or abuse is raised during the child custody battle, then the psychologist may be asked to focus more on that topic. The parent accused of these accusations may be evaluated more than the other, as well as the interaction between the parent and the child. The child will also be questioned further on the topic without either parents in the room. If the child has a learning or mental disability, then the parents will not be evaluated as harshly.

The role of the psychologist during the evaluation is often misunderstood. The psychologist has no ruling as far as the child custody order is concerned. The psychologist is also not allowed to favor one side more than the other. The role of the psychologist is to present an impartial outlook on both parents. By an evaluation being conducted, the parenting abilities of both parties, and then health of the child can be accessed from a bystander view.

Dave Huffman has custody of his 3 children. He has a child custody information blog at

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